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No, I do not think I am "a great buddy". But I spend the whole dive asking if she is OK because I know my wife and she looks wierd the whole time.
I ask if she is OK, she signals that she is. I point where we are going to go. She agrees. I move 5 feet in 20 foot vis. I turn around to check with her. She is on the surface.
She says she hates the cold and the low vis. She hates not being able to see the surface at 25 feet of depth. She is too freaked out to dive in the conditions.
I am far from the worlds best buddy. But I was asking an entirely different question other than "how do I make her dive like a mermaid in the dark cold lake and love it?". That is not what I was asking. I was asking if it is safe for her to ocean dive once a year and not dive in the lake otherwise.
Don
I ask if she is OK, she signals that she is. I point where we are going to go. She agrees. I move 5 feet in 20 foot vis. I turn around to check with her. She is on the surface.
She says she hates the cold and the low vis. She hates not being able to see the surface at 25 feet of depth. She is too freaked out to dive in the conditions.
I am far from the worlds best buddy. But I was asking an entirely different question other than "how do I make her dive like a mermaid in the dark cold lake and love it?". That is not what I was asking. I was asking if it is safe for her to ocean dive once a year and not dive in the lake otherwise.
Don
mrobinson:Well, I'm glad you're asking for help. I sense in your description something I can relate too. My husband thought as you did, in a little more sensitive manner. We realized the real issue was buddy awareness. I didn't need him holding my hand, but I needed more true eye contact - one that looks in my eyes, sees I'm ok, but asks anyways and waits for confirmation. When I took the DIRF, it was amplified why. Another way to be in constant buddy contact is with a HID. If you both have one, you can know everything is in order. Please feel free to ask more if there's anything else you might want to know about.
I'm sure you're thinking you are a great buddy. Take a course like DIRF to confirm it, I dare you.