When One Gives Up Diving

[cleung]

I heard about a distant acquaintance the other day. She had gotten certified and was pretty excited about getting into more scuba diving. Then later on, she met somebody and eventually married this guy. This guy doesn't like water so needless to say, will not take up diving. They have been married for a few years now and from what I heard, she has never dived again since her husband doesn't dive. I've heard this type of story a few times now and it's just sad to hear somebody give up a sport like scuba diving just because their partner or friends do not do it. What do the rest of you think?

By the way, I would never give up diving just because a partner or any of my friends don't dive.

 

[fairybasslet]

The only reason I gave up diving for about a decade was because I had no money. I had gotten married, had a baby, bought a house and I was broke. I certainly would not give up diving for any man. Men come and go, diving is forever.

 

[Gary D.]

I heard about a distant acquaintance the other day. She had gotten certified and was pretty excited about getting into more scuba diving. Then later on, she met somebody and eventually married this guy. This guy doesn't like water so needless to say, will not take up diving. They have been married for a few years now and from what I heard, she has never dived again since her husband doesn't dive. I've heard this type of story a few times now and it's just sad to hear somebody give up a sport like scuba diving just because their partner or friends do not do it. What do the rest of you think?

By the way, I would never give up diving just because a partner or any of my friends don't dive.

It all depends on who or what you love the most.

Come play with us for a while and we'll get you turned off.

Gary D.

 

[NadMat]

Well, I would give up SO before giving up diving, mountainbiking, climbing, or any of my outdoor activities. While I might be willing to modify my frequency of any or all of these to include activities with SO, I would not give up the things I love because of a SO's unreasonable fears.

Of course, that might have something to do with why I am a 43 yr old, never married single male

 

[CAPNVINNY]

My partner doesn't dive,but she loves the beach,so there you go. I head out on the boat ,she goes to the pool or beach.

 

[Diver Dennis]

My girlfriend, who was scared of water at first, is getting her OW at the beginning of September. She loves the water now and has done the Discover thing a couple of times and has done very well. Her fear of the water started with a bad experience when she was young but I coaxed her out again one day and she has not looked back. She said I made her feel safe.
Just goes to show that it can work the other way too.

 

[divad]

. it's just sad to hear somebody give up a sport like scuba diving just because their partner or friends do not do it. What do the rest of you think?

Maybe she prefers the original addiction?

 

[Walter]

Most folks who dive aren't divers. Diving is something they do from time to time. They like it, but they aren't all that excited about it. It's easy to give up or merely forget about.

Some are short time divers. They love diving, but their only diving activity is sightseeing. Before too long, they get bored and drop out.

Others are divers. Diving is their lifestyle. They define themselves as divers. They don't say, "I'm an attorney" or "an accountant" or whatever they do to put food on the table, they say, "I'm a diver." These people have many different diving activities, they sightsee, they take photographs, they hunt for fish and/or bugs, they explore wrecks or caves, they conduct fish counts, they participate in clean ups, they collect fossils, they collect artifacts, they dive for the pure joy of it. They may go through periods of inactivity because of a lack of funds or because kids must take a higher priority, but even when they aren't diving, they are divers, they return to diving as soon and as often as possible.

 

[Amberjack]

My husband and I learned to dive together - but reading this thread, it occurs to me that if for some reason I was single again, being a diver (or wanting to learn) would be a new criteria in a partner!

 

[Ber Rabbit]

Well, I would give up SO before giving up diving, mountainbiking, climbing, or any of my outdoor activities. While I might be willing to modify my frequency of any or all of these to include activities with SO, I would not give up the things I love because of a SO's unreasonable fears.

Of course, that might have something to do with why I am a 43 yr old, never married single male

LOL! I married one of those-- a 43 yr old never married male that is. He dives and we both participate in things that interest each other.

BTW, I have a never married 50 yr old sister-in-law who dives and loves to go water skiing.

What do the rest of you think?

I teach scuba at the local university and you would not believe the number of people who come through the class and either never bother getting certified or they get certified and never dive again. Giving up diving for an SO or other reason really isn't uncommon, it actually seems to be the norm.
Ber :lilbunny: