Interesting topic. On how to assess your trim, I would say the best way to assess at the start is to have someone with you who knows what trim looks like, and have them tell you how you are doing. Underwater video or a camera are great tools also. Many people think they are in trim, or horizontal, when they are not. At the beginning it can be hard to "self-assess" your own trim, but once you get used to it and the feeling, you can tell if you are in trim or not. Try asking your dive partner to look at your trim thoughout the dive and critique you. Come up with a hand signal that works for "your trim is head up" or "your trim is head down". And ask your buddy to let you know throughout your dive.
I think that most divers don't want to (or don't need to) have perfect trim. Most would be happy with just decent trim (within 20-30degrees of flat), but I have seen people swimming along at 45 - 65 degrees, but after the dive say they think they were in trim. At first it can feel weird, since it is new, but it quickly becomes second nature, but it is really something worth working toward imo.
As far as adjusting trim, I always make small adjustments, trying to move some of the weight higher to help balance me out. That might be with a heavier backplate, trim weights, weigted STA, or V-weight, etc.
Good for you for wanting to learn more about it, good luck in your search.