More than half the lionfish hunters that I dive with on charters are Female Speara's. And they are growing and out-catching the men because they are more patient and therefore don't spook the additional 2,3,5 other lionfish in the immediate vicinity.
It's alright and perfectly fine to avoid spearo's and speara's in the water and on the same boat. And just like photogs where macro shooters don't hang around wide angle shooters, it's just different ways to dive. But LF hunting is absolutely growing and eliminating those charter boat choices will also narrow your dive site choices down to the least common denominator.