Whatever the guide requests, for guided — which IME varies wildly around the world and gets further confused in mixed psi/bar groups.
psi:
-thousands on the arm, hundreds out front (one, seven = 1700)
-hundreds on one hand (five five five two = 1700)
-digits on one hand cave/aviation ( one finger up palm out, two fingers sideways back out = 1700)
-digits on one hand ASL (hard to articulate, look it up)
Also, usually only use those below half a (rec) tank; OK above half, two-handed T at half.
With my regular buddy and no guide: hundreds on one hand, just ‘cause we’re used to it.
This is exactly right. The right answer, of course, is that it depends. I have used the first 3 you described here. Have never used the ASL one... seems like few people would, since "9" looks like "OK". However I have never dived with a deaf person, so maybe my experience on this will change some day
The most important thing is that all parties understand what is meant, and when this information needs to be communicated (early and often? just when close the turn pressure? every 10 minutes or so? etc). The one and only way to ensure that everyone is on the same page is to discuss it verbally before the dive. Good DMs are always proactive about this, and good dive buddies should strive to do the same
The most important information to discuss pre-dive are: what is our good-case-scenario expected turn pressure, and what is our bad-case-scenario bailout pressure?
BTW, one advantage to using an air-integrated computer is that you can change the units from psi to bar, or vice versa, to match your buddy's / DM's units. I did exactly this in the Philippines in February when my buddy used rental gear from different shops throughout the trip. 2 dive shops used bar, 1 dive shop used psi. Matching units here means you don't have to remember 2 different quantities for an hour