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Moogyboy

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hey all

I've actually been thinking about the diver/nondiver thing as concerns my long-distance-but-committed gf (I'm in Ohio, she's in New Jersey; I dive, she barely swims). She did say once that she would give it a whirl as long as it was with me, but my impression is that she doesn't really feel comfortable with the idea. I've actually thought of asking her if she'd want to do a resort course if we ever go on a trip together (and since marriage is a distinct possibility for us, perhaps try it on a honeymoon...we've even decided on the VIRGIN Islands, hehe). For my part I would love to have her learn scuba, get certified, and come diving with me regularly, but of course I don't want to pressure her. If nothing else, it'd give her a reason to learn to swim better. :-) Anyway, I'd be interested in hearing other people's experiences with nondiving SO's and whether they've successfully convinced them to take the plunge. So anywho...

cheers

Billy S.
 
Billy,

My wife doesn't dive. We've been married 8 yrs now. Its not the issue many people make out. We went to Jamaica a while back. I dove each morning, she slept in. We met for lunch and spent the afternoon doing things together. My wife is warming up to the idea of Scuba but i haven't pressed her at all. It would just turn her off to the idea. For your situation I'd take your gf snorkeling. Put on a life jacket, mask, fins, and snorkel andd take off. It will perk her iterest in the underwater. Worked for me.
 
I don't think the resort course on th honey moon would be good. She would get frustrated and you would end up on the couch.

Maybe suggest a mini vacation to an area where she can snorkel. They have those snorkel vests she can wear. Swimming lessons are an idea as well. Don't push the scuba thing. I think its healthy to have at least one hobby you don't share with your spouse/partner.
 
ShakaZulu:
Very simple, buy one of these with a window in it, hook her up to your wreck reel and tow her around. That way she doubles as a safety device.

http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.gsp?product_id=2221811


Wow.... If they sell women in bikini's like that at Walmart and you can order
them online, what do you need with the non diving girlfirend?


Seriously... My wife doesn't dive, but that's not a problem. We try to book
a vacation destination that has an onsite dive shop. I go diving in the
morning and she sleeps in some and sits on the beach reading her book.
I come back after the dive and she's all relaxed, etc...
One of the things she likes about some of the resorts is to find on
that offers "beach service" from the bar. They give you a little flag on
a small staff and you stick it in the sand when you need a refill.
Best to go all-inclusive in any place that has beach service and
a red-flag for bar service. Trust me.
 
If you are diving alot on your honeymoon, especially when you have been seperated in a long distance relationship ... something is very wrong ... if you have to ask what, something is very VERY wrong. :eyebrow:

I'd say take her snorkling first and see how she reacts. The last think you want her to do is panic underwater and then blame you on the entire ordeal or worse, not let you go diving again.

You theoretically, have the rest of your lives together for her to feel comfortable diving, but until she does, at least you have something you can do on your own and come back all excited and charged.

In theory anyways.

-OR- you can take her out on a dive boat, tie your weight belt to her and push her over and save on future legal costs...I mean..um...yeah...nevermind. :11:
 
My wife rues the day that she talked me into buying snorkel gear. Before then I was the model husband; ie "What would you like to do this weekend, dear?", or "Let me vacuum this time, hon.". Once I figured out how to clear my ears, everything went downhill.

Seriously, if you are as addicted as I am, diving spouse & non-diving spouse CAN be a problem. BUT, I would never reccomend pushing someone into diving. If they don't want to do it of their own free will, they will probably have a harder time feeling relaxed & comfortable.
 
The first 20 years my wife didn't dive. He was DX with MS and a year later started.

I took her down 6’ and it created a monster. She wanted to go deeper but not until she went to school, which she did. Now she is a deep freak. Screw the vacuum we're going diving. Honey you don't have one of those so let’s get one. Believe it or not, this can be a problem as well.

She has gear like a metal detector that I don’t have ;^( but I juts steal hers from time to time.

Oh honey, look at that cute diving boat, let's get it. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, OK. One has to put up some kind of a fight.

Even with her MS she got her AOW. Go take a peak at her web site at: www.mswobbles.com

Gary D.
 

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