Thanks so much for everyones input! After numerous trips to the local dive shops and discussions with the divemasters/instructors we decided that we wanted to learn using our own gear. After trying a ton things on and going over support, warranties, reliabilities, expiring rebates, etc we have have come up with what I think is a pretty good setup for each of us.
The only thing I am torn a bit on is the octo. I know that I want an actual octo and not an intergrated unit. There are obviously heated debates on a whether or not to get a cheap octo or a matching octo. Well this is the argument that stuck out to me the most being a pilot, one that has invested $1000's in a parachute.
3) Don't skimp on the octo! It should be as good as your primary reg, and tested regularly. Pilots don't buy cheap parachutes since it's unlikely that they will be using them...
I offered to save money by getting my fiance a really nice octo and myself a cheapo but for SOME reason she didn't care for that idea so much. So anyway here is the breakdown of our gear:
For Me:
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SKU: ATMZ2OYL
Atomic Aquatics Z2 Octopus, Yellow » more info[/TD]
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SKU: ZGLST
Zeagle Stiletto BCD with the Ripcord Weight System, Black » more info[/TD]
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SKU: ATMZ2XSW
Atomic Aquatics Z2X Regulator » more info[/TD]
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SKU: OCNVT4C
Oceanic VT4.1 Hoseless Wrist Computer & Transmitter with PC Download Kit » more info[/TD]
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For Her:
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SKU: ATMZ2OYL
Atomic Aquatics Z2 Octopus, Yellow » more info[/TD]
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SKU: OCNHR
Oceanic Hera Womens BC » more info[/TD]
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SKU: ATMZ2XSW
Atomic Aquatics Z2X Regulator » more info[/TD]
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SKU: AERET3C
Aeris Elite T3 Computer Complete with Transmitter » more info[/TD]
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Thanks for all the help!!!