GrierHPharmD:My wife and I trained together and did our first dives exclusively with each other. As a result, we became reasonably self-sufficient. However, because we never dove with other, more experienced divers, we allowed ourselves to be talked into taking a dive just after our AOW course (lifetime dive 17) to a deep wreck in heavy seas. We were lucky to return to the boat safely, but she has stopped diving as a result of the incident.
A few dives with some seasoned buddies might have helped us understand our limitations better and helped us make the more intelligent decision of calling the dive.
Now, I dive with buddies who have a wide range of experience, from novices to many hundreds of dive experts. I don't know which I learn more from...
Glad you made it back OK, but sorry to hear your wife stopped diving.
My point is that every diver with a cert card should be able to conduct an open water dive, within the limits of their training and experience without the NEED for a more experienced buddy. You are talking about diving beyond your level of experience and you had a close call.
You may have a buddy that you feel comfortable extending your range with a little bit but beware of "trust me" dives. Just because your buddy has a "U-Boat penetration" cert card doesn't mean he is trained to haul your butt out if you get in trouble.
I am just sorry to see so many certified divers who look for more experienced buddies because they wish to get in over their head (pun intended).
cheers,