Mike:
I like to shoot print film so I will take a shot at your question. I don't think your problem is developing. Most print film uses a c-41 process and getting negatives produced is hard to screw up. Printing the negs is another matter. Not all negative film is the same so the operator has to know the proper settings or standard color correction for the film you are using. An UW photograph can also be high contrast, with a strobe lit subject standing out against a darker background. If your negative strip is being shoved through a computer control print machine, it's attempt to "balance" the shot will make your subject appear over exposed even though you shot it right (or close to correct).
Print operator skill is everything. A good operator will figure out what you are doing and apply any needed manual color adjusments and density (exposure) adjustments to your work. Unfortunately, this process is labor intensive and is not to be expected from a high volume low cost processor.
My favorate lab recently closed its doors so I know how frustrating the search for a good lab can be. You are usually looking for a mom and pop type operation. Start with your local camera shop that seems to cater to pro photographers and explain your problem. See who they use or suggest. When you find a lab, explain your needs. If you don't like the results, ask the tech that printed your film what went wrong. If you don't get an intelligent answer, keep looking. If you find a good lab, tell your friends. It is hard for the independants to compete with the big volume discount outfits and quality is all they have to sell.
I have given you the benefit of the any doubts about the quality of your shots. If you can be more specific about your problems, I think you will find a lot of good help and constructive suggestions on this forum.
---Bob