you know what happens when you assume?
you come off sounding mean
Tom
I agree.
What happened in your training is in the past, and you are trying to learn here so ignore any posts like the one tomboyy quoted.
I too lack experienced people to dive with so had to go at it alone from dive 15 (winter was beginning so not as many DM lead trips run). I made a list of questions to ask the buddy I was assigned on the boat, which I continue to do now with both regular buddies and instabuddies:
-max depth
-which direction will we go in, will we return to shot line or put up an SMB
-related to the above, who will be the main navigator (or basically, the leader), usually it is easier if one person decides on the direction throughout the dive. Though if I am not the main navigator I still take bearings in case the other person gets us lost (with varying degrees of success!)
-total run time and length and depth of safety stops
-what is the turn around gas (you should ascend when you reach your turn around gas or total run time finishes, whichever comes first), here I usually ask how long they can do a dive at that depth, just to get an idea of their SAC, but with new buddies I ask to check their gauges throughout the dive in case they forget to let me know at the turnaround point
-hand signals including low on air, cold, cramps, trouble, equalisation issues, one for asking to check their gauges or air pressure, safety stop signs, "awesome", deco, run time left, and slow down (this one is good to go over with inexperienced divers). Here I also ask about how often to give each other the ok sign and stress that it should be returned with either ok or not ok.
-what will happen if we lose one another - look for 1min then ascend, skipping safety stop
-what will happen if one of us runs out of air, like a few of my buddies have dived with a long hose set up so we go over about how I should ask for the primary rather than occy, stuff like that.
-anything in particular we both want to get out of a dive.
I don't do shore dives with instabuddies ever, but when I do those kinds of dives, I call my partner with our dive run time so if I don't call him back by then he can raise the alarm.
With the dive site, if you are on a boat, the operator should know the site pretty well so they have always been happy to answer any of my questions about compass bearings, stuff to see, etc.
Good luck on your dives
