I also asked him about a temporary tube in the ears as well so they could heal...he said no to that as well
Yeah, I would be very careful about tubes if this is your career.
Not sure where you are or where you have access to, but if you are in the US and want to PM me, I may be able to recommend an otologist for you. ENT is sort of a large field, but for something like this you probably should see someone who really specializes in ear disease.