Lonely old lady needs feedback

[lostinspace]

1) nah, you're not being picky - just reasonable towards your own future sanity
2) no, actually I wasn't - I was being genuine: if you can't find the guys locally maybe you need to look a little further - who knows? what do you have to lose? (oh, and my grandfather met my step-grandmother through a dating agency - after he lost my grandmother - about 45 years ago. they are still together.)

 

[Nomaster]

Too picky: he can't be abusive in any way (verbal, emotional, physical)to women, children, or animals; anyone addicted to anything (a minor caffeine addiction is OK) is out; we should have some common ground in educational level (or at least potential), interests, and fitness level; anyone seriously mentally ill is out; I would like someone within 10 years of my own age, who has parenting experience (parenting changes you, and no-one who doesn't have children would be able to understand the responsibility I feel toward mine), who is not overly negative, who is capable of being faithful, who has an open mind about spirituality, who doesn't have to be blind drunk to get up and dance with me in public . . . I don't know, maybe that is just asking too much. I meet far too many men who are bitter, self-centred, controlling, don't take care of their bodies at all . . . it is just depressing.

Are you being sarcastic about the dating agency??

I wonder whether in many/most cases of men not taking care of their bodies if you just didn't give the answer why, ". . .it is just depressing."
I know that whenever I get out of shape, it's during a bout of depression. When I begin either coming out of depression, I start 'shaping up' or when I force myself to get in shape, I come out of the depression.
Not surprising that many in the mental health care field advocate a steady course of exercise to keep the grey away.

Tom

 

[Walter]

Sounds like a reasonable list and it should be pretty easy to find guys who fit. I'd guess there are hundreds on this board alone.

 

[Mako Mark]

Sounds like a reasonable list and it should be pretty easy to find guys who fit. I'd guess there are hundreds on this board alone.

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[cyklon_300]

on the mental illness, parenting, and dancing issues...

 

[Mako Mark]

Me??

it was the addictions.........


Im addicted to SB....

 

[Nehallenia]

1) 2) no, actually I wasn't - I was being genuine: if you can't find the guys locally maybe you need to look a little further - who knows? what do you have to lose? (oh, and my grandfather met my step-grandmother through a dating agency - after he lost my grandmother - about 45 years ago. they are still together.)

That is neat about your grandfather and step-grandmother. As for looking further afield - I joined SB to talk and learn about diving, but if I meet someone special . . . well, we'll will just have to work out the logistics.

 

[Nehallenia]

I wonder whether in many/most cases of men not taking care of there bodies if you just didn't give the answer why, ". . .it is just depressing."
I know that whenever I get out of shape, it's during a bout of depression. When I begin either coming out of depression, I start 'shaping up' or when I force myself to get in shape, I come out of the depression.
Not surprising that many in the mental health care field advocate a steady course of exercise to keep the grey away.

Tom

I know exercise has done wonders for a friend of mine who recently suffered a clinical depression, and gives me a major boost whenever i am feeling low, so whatever else you give up, fight to keep up that exercise routine!

 

[Nehallenia]

Errrr........




Dont all reply at once...............










HALLOOOOOOOOOOOooooooo is anybody there??'








Anybody?????


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You are doing a whole lot for my ego here, Mark!

 

[justleesa]

Nehallenia, when you least expect it to it will happen...and what you're looking for is out there. Good luck!

I found my partner thru a scuba club, so can you