It's OK to take a ton of gear, the question is how to pack it along. For instance, I have a regular folding dive knife (titanium) on my harness under my inflator hose. I have a line cutter on my waist strap under my pouch. I don't carry anything in the pouch, it's to pick up garbage while diving. I have a light clipped to my chest d-ring, and held down to the harness with a bungee. I do not carry wetnotes or slates unless teaching, as I do not really need to communicate beyond hand signals on a recreational dive. In 6,000+ dives, I've never needed a spare mask, or a cave reel. My dSMB is in a pouch that hangs off of my backplate behind me, and my finger spool clips to the other d-ring on the other side of my chest from my light. So, while I carry a lot of gear, none of it is danglie. My octo is bungeed around my neck, my SPG console is clipped to a waist d-ring, and unless I have a student, I don't have a snorkel.
When I learned to dive, I had a BCD and looked a bit poofy. Or, like a poofta, either way. When I met my wife, who is a cave diver, she cleaned me up a lot. She takes care of me that way. My advice is to go find a cave diver to date.