There are all sorts of advantages and disadvantages that comes with physical attributes. Generally speaking, women and smaller individuals may find carrying weights a greater burden and at the same time, they tend to have better air consumption. I'm 112lb 5'2 and at times, shore dives have felt like military assault courses. However, there are always ways to lessen the burden:
Travel/transport of equipment - get a very good wheeled case
Cooperation - if there's a pair of divers or a group of divers, you should help one another. It isn't a big deal helping someone kit up and most divers don't need to be asked. It's not just size but age and physical impairments can make things a bit tough. I've often helped elderly people with their equipment.
Gear donning - Use the bench on a boat, tree stumps, picnic tables, whatever is available. If the water is placid, kit up in the water (but be careful, I did sink my equipment once because I didn't inflate the BCD adequately).
Good news, you do learn techniques and develop strength. Even within a short period, you learn your strengths and weaknesses. I have a female friend (130lb) who is now diving with twin tanks. A year ago, she wouldn't even have considered it.
All the best