There are Huds and Nerds. The Nerd is a face computer. A traditional Hud is a few Led lights, and falls into the fish face slapping category you outline just like haptics. Zero difference.I’ve a Petrel 2 and a Nerd 2. I’d definitely be wary of diving without something in my face as it isn’t just for alerts, it is for constant monitoring.
Let’s face it, a haptic alert is like being slapped around the face with a fish for not monitoring your system. (Cue Monty Python fish slapping dance)