here's how weight checks work. You have 4 factors
Buoyancy of you
Buoyancy of suit
Buoyancy of rig
Buoyancy of gas
Buoyancy of rig is the only one that you can control. So you find out how much lead it takes to sink you without a wetsuit, you find out how much it takes to sink the wetsuit, then you take a luggage scale and weigh the rig in the water. With tank. Subtract the weight of the gas in the tank, and the difference in you+wetsuit-rig is how much lead you have to carry. Weight of gas in tank+weight required to sink the wetsuit is the size wing you need.
Now, you should never dive a rig that you can't kick up with a total wing failure. This is why the DIR crowd does not allow thick wetsuits with steel doubles, or when diving "deep", my limit is usually around 80ft with a thick wetsuit *anything over 5mm*. Thinner wetsuits don't lose enough buoyancy to matter, but when you're losing 20lbs of ballast, you are diving a very unbalanced rig and that's an issue. We require our students to carry a 10lb diving brick up from the bottom and swim with it at the surface to the edge of the pool in just their bathing suit. With fins you should easily be able to generate 20lbs of thrust to get you up to 30-40ft where the suit will start to take over. If you can't kick that rig up, you have no business diving it.