I "grieved" for two days and now I'm more determined than ever - I'll be bouncing around Europe during the summer anyway, so am now looking at dive schools on Malta, to spend a month there, get the training I need (without the dry suit for now) and continue my journey from there! If anything, this experience has now only hardened my resolve that I won't be defeated by a drysuit and nonexistent muscles
Thank you everyone for your posts, I mean it,
thank you!
Good plan, go ahead with it!
Malta is an excellent place, as, albeit not being "tropical" water, the temperature during summer is enough for using just minimal thermal protection (people used to cold waters can even dive without any suit, for most people a shorty is enough, or a very stretchy 3mm suit without hood).
On the other hand you will not get the problems you have in some tropical waters (strong current, large waves, dangerous animals). Mediterranean is a benign, calm and pleasant environment, very favourable for beginners.
Muscles are almost irrelevant, it is all matter of proper technique and proper equipment. And most of the limits are in your brains, not in your body, and can be overcome with proper training and the help of a good instructor...
As an instructor, I found that some of the most problematic students were super-fit athletes. Runners, cyclists, triathlon, etc. They were burning air very fast, they did move too much, and often had very poor control of their brains.
My favourite students have always been females, possibly following the course without their husband - boyfriend. They were motivated, calm, and did follow exactly my instructions, making the teaching experience easy and pleasant. Personally I think that female divers have some inherent cultural, mental and physical advantages over males, at least in western countries. Most males have this "macho" attitude which is definitely bad and dangerous when learning to survive in an hostile environment.