tjmills
Contributor
I do understand the thumb up sign but lets take a look at what this sounds like as the panic was taking place and the diver starts racing for the surface and the buddy who is also very new got a clear sign that there was a problem. From the description of the incident, I doubt anything was clear to the diver at that time until they regained their composure and even much less to the buddy. We are talking about a buddy with very little experience watching a person race for the surface. This could have all happened in a couple of seconds but in the divers mind it was probably an eternity. (I am sure you know what I mean)
What frustrates me on here is that everyone wants to jump on the buddy right off the bat and it becomes their fault for the divers mistakes. They were not watching me all the time, they were looking at the reef for 15 seconds instead of watching me 100% of the time when I did something stupid, my buddy was more than 5 feet from me most of the dive...ect, ect. ect. They must be a bad buddy!!! And everyone jumps on their side and reinforces these insecurities. Its not good and its especially not good for NEW divers to think this way. They must take responsibility for their own actions and realize that they are responsible for their own saftey and that a buddy is "SAFETY MARGIN" and not their personal valet. (sorry, couldn't come up with a better word). This is why everyone practices skills and does things like remove their mask, remove their BC, ect. ect ect.
Now I realize there are exceptions to this and their are in fact...bad buddies but I would venture a large bet that it is far the exception than the rule. We are all taught buddy skills but the cold hard reality is that you need to be able to take care of yourself for the most part. You panic because you think you are stuck in some down draft vortex because you read something about this on scubaboard a couple weeks ago....don't blame your buddy as you go racing by them for the surface. You did something stupid and your brand new diver buddy didn't realize something was wrong and yet the diver thinks they were communicating perfectly???
Sorry, I don't mean to sound so gruff about this but this is one of those things on here that I have watched happen over and over on threads and it drives me nutz. Both experienced and inexperienced people on here fall into the same pattern of just agreeing with the complaint without taking a look whole issue here. By just agreeing with them, the are reinforcing bad practices to new divers and this is BAD BAD BAD.
I am sorry if I offended anyone as that is not my attention.
Designbysue, this is all not directed complety at you either and nor is it directed at anyone on this thread in particular either. You (and your brother) are only one in a long list on here and you have some pretty experienced company along the way. I just want new divers to analize the situation a little differently and learn from their mistakes and not just blame your buddy. I think you have for the most part based upon what you said. Many new divers are likely to read this and I think it was worth being said. No one is imune to panic but learning how to recognize and deal with it is especially important underwater and I am glad you overcame it and I am positive you learned a lot from it. I am glad you are ok too.
What frustrates me on here is that everyone wants to jump on the buddy right off the bat and it becomes their fault for the divers mistakes. They were not watching me all the time, they were looking at the reef for 15 seconds instead of watching me 100% of the time when I did something stupid, my buddy was more than 5 feet from me most of the dive...ect, ect. ect. They must be a bad buddy!!! And everyone jumps on their side and reinforces these insecurities. Its not good and its especially not good for NEW divers to think this way. They must take responsibility for their own actions and realize that they are responsible for their own saftey and that a buddy is "SAFETY MARGIN" and not their personal valet. (sorry, couldn't come up with a better word). This is why everyone practices skills and does things like remove their mask, remove their BC, ect. ect ect.
Now I realize there are exceptions to this and their are in fact...bad buddies but I would venture a large bet that it is far the exception than the rule. We are all taught buddy skills but the cold hard reality is that you need to be able to take care of yourself for the most part. You panic because you think you are stuck in some down draft vortex because you read something about this on scubaboard a couple weeks ago....don't blame your buddy as you go racing by them for the surface. You did something stupid and your brand new diver buddy didn't realize something was wrong and yet the diver thinks they were communicating perfectly???
Sorry, I don't mean to sound so gruff about this but this is one of those things on here that I have watched happen over and over on threads and it drives me nutz. Both experienced and inexperienced people on here fall into the same pattern of just agreeing with the complaint without taking a look whole issue here. By just agreeing with them, the are reinforcing bad practices to new divers and this is BAD BAD BAD.
I am sorry if I offended anyone as that is not my attention.
Designbysue, this is all not directed complety at you either and nor is it directed at anyone on this thread in particular either. You (and your brother) are only one in a long list on here and you have some pretty experienced company along the way. I just want new divers to analize the situation a little differently and learn from their mistakes and not just blame your buddy. I think you have for the most part based upon what you said. Many new divers are likely to read this and I think it was worth being said. No one is imune to panic but learning how to recognize and deal with it is especially important underwater and I am glad you overcame it and I am positive you learned a lot from it. I am glad you are ok too.