IMO buoyancy, trim and awareness should be "muscle reflexes" and have no or little impact on task-loading. a Buddy going up or down (couples of meters as you indicated) during task-loading, will either go straight up or down. I also struggle to see how up/down buoyancy is going to help with buddy awareness.
You can task-load a GUE diver silly, but they will remain in control of both buoyancy and trim because these activities does not require any "thinking", they are second nature (muscle memory).
When the sh1t hits the fan, you only have your skills and if these are shaky the rest might not matter.
My 2 cents.......
... there were GUE divers on this dive ... I guess you'd have to just have been there to comprehend that at this particular site you don't always have complete control over your buoyancy and trim no matter how good you are ... sometimes you're going to go where the water movement decides to take you, and a few feet of separation between buddies can put you each into completely different flow patterns.
To respond to Krzys ... maintaining buddy contact is the absolute priority. It's why ... for the first time you've ever seen ... I would not allow a 3-person buddy team, particularly since both me and my buddy were carrying cameras. This dive was good experience for you because it was beyond anything you've experienced before ... but there were more experienced divers who didn't fare any better than you did.
Awareness is the key ... eye contact and communication with your buddy were the first priority. Your buoyancy control skills were more than adequate ... but as you noted, your priorities placed style (in particular, trim) above team cohesion. On THIS dive, you may have to do things you wouldn't normally do in order to maintain the latter. I sacrified a glove by grabbing a handful of giant barnacles when it looked like my buddy and I were about to go in different directions ... and she did the same. We hung on till the current changed enough for us to stay together. This is a split-second response in the 10-15 foot vis we had ... and understanding that what was causing the potential for separation was a transient whirlpool that was going to pass us by within a handful of seconds if we were able to just maintain our position. In our case, Jody was taking her cues from me, and reacting to what I was doing in order to keep us together. That's something the team needs to anticipate and discuss beforehand ... and why your buddy afterward suggested that you should dive together in less challenging conditions before doing something like that again. She's a very good, experienced diver who understands that a big part of team cohesion is knowing what to expect from each other ... which is more difficult to do when you're diving together for the first time.
Diving is often circumstantial ... and your priorities have to be based on the circumstances. On a dive like this, maintaining the integrity of the buddy team takes precedence over everything else (except breathing ...

) ... in the case of me and my buddy, both carrying cameras that are normally a high priority for us, we both clipped them off once we got out into the main flow and realized we were in for a wild ride. At that point, reset your priorities, make it about staying together, and sacrifice whatever else needs to be sacrificed to meet that priority. Once the conditions change ... and they did ... you reset your priorities again to match the conditions.
... Bob (Grateful Diver)
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The one absolute priority is staying alive and returning that way.
Having said that all other priorities are adjusted depending on dive conditions which includes buddy cohesion. Dive conditions include the experience of the buddy. If diving with an inexperienced diver buddy connection moves from high on the list to very close to the top. Navigation is quite high also. In my personal opinion if one has to focus on buoyancy at the expense of other important things like navigation and keeping track of buddy, then there is a question whether they should be on a low viz, high current, frequent separation dive at all much less with an inexperienced buddy who could panic.
Navigation on this particular dive was simplicity itself ... maintain eye contact with the wall. The current will sweep you southward until it doesn't ... then it will reverse and sweep you right back where you just came from. When you get to the place where you got in, get out ...
... Bob (Grateful Diver)