diving is my dream but...

[boulderjohn]

OK, I'll pile on. This is good advice:

I would talk to an ENT that knows something about diving.........

If you contact the Divers's Alert Network (DAN) they can suggest one in your area.

Now, as for me, I had a lot of trouble when I first started, and I mean a lot. I have never had a student have as much trouble as I did. I had a lifetime of sinus troubles, and it showed. An instructor even said I might not be able to be a diver with the trouble I was having.

To make a long story short, those days are far, far behind me. I now have so little trouble equalizing that I barely notice I am doing it.

What's the difference?

Experience. By doing a lot of diving (and equalizing), my ears just plain got used to it. I started equalizing all the time--watching TV, reading a book, flying on the plane on the way to a dive trip--all the time. Eventually it all paid off.

Now, your case has some complications mine did not, so that is why I agree with those who say you should consult a knowledgeable ENT first.

 

[NC Wreck Diver]

Listen to the previous posts. See an ENT and get a contact at DAN. Go slow. It's not a race, and the power behind a tank of compressed air is better than a breath on a snorkel. Can you fly in a plane? That's is a decent indicator, not foolproof, but a start. Did I mention GO SLOW! Don't do anything to cause you ears damage. Let others pass you on the anchor line if they need to. I pass people, and we all understand that some divers need more time equalizing. Just part of the sport. Don't forget to come up slow if you need to also. Just plan your gas for these tasks as your instructors taught you. Rule of 1/3's is good. Take your time and have fun. You'll get it.