Ah, apologies. After rereading your original post, I see you are Extended Range certified.
As for your question regarding frequency of deco dives, that's a difficult question for me to answer in a meaningful way. The majority of dives these days are cave dives as opposed to deep wreck dives, so the necessity of planning for long/complex ascents is less than the focus on other issues. However, in terms of the total number of staged decompression dives I've planned and managed to complete with all my fingers and toes intact, it's in the thousands. Which is a shock to me! LOL! But when I did almost exclusively Great Lakes diving, my guess would be 150 staged decompression dives a year (most on trimix below 50 metres). I NEVER plan decompression on back gas. Had to do it a time or two, but those were totally seat of the pants unplanned **** hit the fan affairs.
Interesting that you logged 800 minutes of bottom time during your ER course. Was it in BC conditions? If so, that's a tough ask!
As for carrying a fourth bottle in SM (two primary and two deco), it is manageable for sure, and having contingency gas does lend a sense of bliss should anything go pear-shaped... or even if things unfold as they should. My comment regarding the efficacy of practising come to Jesus scenarios holds regardless.
Dive safe and often.