This leaves me to wonder can TECH DIVING ever be made reasonably safe.
My sincere condolences.
I would like to address your question (quoted above).
In my opinion, technical diving can never be made as safe as recreational diving. When you're deep and well over the NDL's, perhaps in a literal overhead, and something goes wrong then
a) it goes wrong fast
and
b) is has a better than average chance of ending badly
These days with technical diving becoming "main stream" we try to mitigate the risks with training and equipment (the same approach applied to recreational diving). In the days of Exley, Turner, Palmer and Bennett, to name a few, there was training but experience and procedures were more relatively more important than they are today. Ideally, you would want to have it all... training, experience, gear, procedures..... Don't fool yourself, in particular the aspect of experience has become neglected and if you ask me, I think it's getting worse as technical specialties gain traction.
I see a trend that I personally don't like much. I see a lot of "technical" trainers who are basically recreational instructors who are selling tech training..... I now expect a bunch of people to jump on my neck and try to spin this, but this is what's happening. Most of the time it goes ok because most of the time nothing bad happens. I looked through my computer log recently and I've done 482 staged decompression dives... actually 483 as of last night...
The shop where I work recently asked me if I would certify to teach tec-rec courses because they see a market for that which includes divers who want to buy a lot of gear.... I told him i wouldn't say no but I didn't feel qualified. He laughed so i looked it up. You know what you need to teach tec-rec courses... or more accurately, to call yourself a "tech instructor"? 100 dives... 20 staged decompression dives and MSDT. Someone with those qualifications wouldn't even ping on my radar as a qualified buddy for most of the dives I do..... If they dove with us they would seriously need supervision!
This is the lowest common denominator in technical training at the moment. Some who barely qualifies to be MSDT (actually, I don't think someone with 100 dives could qualify for that) and has barely enough experience to make a technical dive as long as they have supervision.... Some of these are the the people TEACHING technical diving..... and they can ONLY teach skills and equipment because they are far too inexperienced themselves to even hope to transfer any of that experience to their students. Moreover, even if they do understand the "best practices" of procedure, they don't have enough experience to understand why they are best practices.
None of this probably applies to your friend but it does apply to your question. Can technical diving be made "safe" ... perhaps *reasonably* safe if there are instructors out there who have the whole package (skills, equipment, experience, procedures) but given where this trend is going I'm going to say that things are likely to get much worse before they get any better.
R..