How can I bleed off 3500 psi safely so I can pop the valve
HP air is dangerous, get in-person advice and supervision. Seriously. Especially if there's anything other than air in the cylinder. Wear gloves, hearing protection, and goggles, and make sure the tank is thoroughly secured, most shops would put it in a tank vise before fiddling with it.
Every SCUBA tank valve I've seen has a floating stem that is not actually attached to the valve seat. It is ordinarily possible to carefully remove the packing nut (aka glad nut or bonnet nut) that holds the stem in place, then remove the damaged stem with pliers, without releasing any air. If the valve stem is stuck to the packing nut then it may turn when you start removing the packing nut, which will solve your problem too.
Once that is done, the damaged parts can be replaced with new ones and the contents of the tank used on the next dive. Alternatively, the valve seat can be carefully opened with pliers to bleed off the gas, so that the entire valve can be removed for inspection or replacement.
If the valve body itself is bent it is possible that the gland not may not be able to be removed or that the valve seat can't be loosened but that's rare. It takes a fair amount of force to get the packing nut loose, especially on Thermo valves and other designs that use a copper crush washer rather than an O-ring. Experience and judgment is required to know how much force is really excessive.
Removing the burst disc on a full tank is a last resort because the disk may blow rather than leak.