I can speak from the lady diver with Stiletto side of the house. I purchased the Stiletto about a year ago and have logged nearly 75 dives with it.
The quality is fantastic and I love all the stainless steel D rings.
However, here's my two cents: The "general" thought for BCDs are to carry the weight pouches directly on the hips with the cumberbund slightly below the belly button. This works for guys who in comparison, have stronger upper bodies & don't have hourglass shaped bodies. I found having my weight pouches (full of 14-16 pounds of lead total) directly on my hips soooo uncomfortable + hard on my back. So, I tightened up the shoulder straps on the Stiletto and carry the weight right above my hip bone -> so it sits in the snug of my waistline. The cumberbund sits right on my waist at the narrowest portion + slightly above my bellybutton = so it now stays put. Much more comfortable!
Also, when I had the cumberbund and weights lower on my hips, the Stiletto would continuously creep up toward my waist through the dive. ANNOYING! Nothing like having to grab your BCD and pull down with one hand while diving. So, I installed the crotch straps.
Lastly - Keep in mind that the top torso strap is adjustable - if it's too high you can move it down & vice versa.