The simple answer is, "it doesn't really matter". I own multiple backplates and wings, and wear them in different combinations. I have an Oxycheq 30-lb wing, a DSS 35-lb wing, and a Halcyon 40-lb wing. And while there are subtle differences in how they feel, there's not enough difference between them to matter.
More relevant considerations might be style (horseshoe or donut), construction (single layer or inner bladder/outer protective shell), price, inflator hose length (I absolutely hate the short inflator hoses on the DSS wings, particularly for cold water diving). and personal preference (brand name, color, or other non-functional concerns that might make you like one better than the other).
Too much is made of "optimizing" gear ... unless you're planning on diving in some sort of competition, there's just not enough of a difference to matter. I wouldn't go any bigger than 40 lbs for a singles wing, and stay away from those "hybrid" monstrosities that claim to be good for both single and double tanks. Otherwise, I'd base it more on budget than anything else ...
... Bob (Grateful Diver)