The compatability of an octo rests with the octo's compatability with the first stage intermediate pressure. This is an issue regardless of whether you mix brands. SP for example allows IP's between 125 and 140 which is as broad as the range of IP's between most different brands.
The adjustment of an octo to accomodate a higher or lower IP is quite simple and normally just requires a bit of adjustment of seating depth of the orifice in the octo. In many cases though this is not required as the octo is set up in with a noncritical mid range adjustment already. In any case the tech you buy it from should eb abel to install it for you and make any required adjustment at no cost. 'Course, if you by on-line, you will probably have to pay for this service at the LDS.
The recommendation to leave the LP hose fitting attached finger tight to the second stage has some benefit for a tech diver who may find himself with a faulty second stage on a deco bottle and where it is very handy to be able to switch second stages. But it has little value to rec divers in general and absolutely no value to a rec diver with a single tank.
Swapping a second stage in water requires being able to turn off the tank valve. This is not an option for a single tank diver, and what exactly would you switch it with? For a rec diver, it can also create a saftey hazard as over time the LP fitting can unscrew itself from the second stage resulting in a leak or in severe cases with the second stage coming off resulting in a catastrophic loss of air. I don't know many rec divers who actually check this item before every dive. For a rec diving situation, it's a far better idea to use a wrench and tighted it slightly past hand tight, so it will stay put until the next annual service.
When lubing O-rings, put the lube on your fingers and rub the O-ring between them. Very little lube is required and too much lube just gets it into the reg in places it really does not belong and just attracts and hold dirt, which causes more wear on the o-ring. Less is usually more when it comes to o-ring lubrication.