Yep. I get it. Looking... while trying to get comfortable finning in the meantime.... Am totally on board with reasonable swim skills being a live skill that opens a door to a lot of activities that then instead of being fear instilling become fun. And safe fun at that...Swim lessons.
I was, until quite recently, a terrible swimmer. I had a series of lessons in my youth which helped somewhat. I didn't have any real trouble passing the swim test before I started the open water diver class, but I couldn't do any of the standard strokes and was slow. After a year of diving I decided that this is something I wanted to fix, because with rivers, and currents, and canoes, and the other things I do in the water, sometimes speed makes the difference between being able to get there or not.
I joined Lifetime Fitness and paid for 1:1 swim lessons with one of their coaches last winter. It was not inexpensive. I spent a lot of time in the pool, about 25 hours over a period of several months, including 6 hours with my instructor. At the conclusion of which I swam a 100 yard medley. I'm not going to win any races but I know I can do a sprint across a current now if I need to.
The guy I was taking lessons from is in his late 20s and does this for a living, and he's good at it. In contrast to the college kids some places use, who are trying to make a few bucks over the summer, whose instructional skills are variable, and whose experience is nonexistent. You get what you pay for.
Now, your wife's goals are different, but I think that the same sort of individualized swim instruction would help her, if she's willing to put in the time and money.
She already agreed to go do it if a coach is found... we'll see...
In the meantime, once she swims well enough for getting started and decides herself she is ready, we may start scuba lessons.... that does not mean swimming is off the radar...
Good to hear your story. Thanks.