How do I get my fiancee interested in scuba??... help!!

[pmolink]

I finally talked my wife into it at age 50. She did a discovery dive in a pool with an instructor from a local dive shop. Then two resort dives at "exotic tropical destinations."

After that, she got the bug (lobster pun not intended).

Ask her to come along on a boat dive just for the ride. If she doesn't enjoy a day out on a boat, she will probably never enjoy diving.

 

[bane51031]

My wife initially was not interested until I got her a Discover scuba at a reputable shop as a gift, once she was finished with the discover scuba she was ready to take the next step open water cert. and although she does not have the fever as much as I do (no ice diving,night,deep) she still enjoys local diving and vacation diving.
Once I became an instructor I now use Discover scuba as a tool to give people who are unsure of diving a chance to sample it and have a good success rate of students who opt to progess towards O/W cert.It doesn't cost much so if she doesn't like it your not out much but, if she tries it and decides it's a no go don't push her, just enjoy what you like too do and let her do her own hobby as well.

 

[Web Monkey]

She has met many of my dive buddies, some which are fantastic instructors. She has indicated that the thought of scuba just does not appeal to her. She is a very athletic person that loves the outdoors... but no scuba???

The only thing worse than a wife who dives just to please her husband is a wife who dives to please her husband, panics underwater, bolts for the surface and gets hurt or killed.

Be happy you found someone, recognize that she is an entire person who has her own desires, fears and hobbies that don't always match yours, and move on.

The world is full of people who will happily dive with you and it's also full of places your wife can happily snorkel (or shop or play golf) while you dive.

Terry

 

[Crowley]

Perhaps she will consent to an intro dive or DSD in confined open water - ie somewhere she will see some good stuff. I've taken plenty of very nervous people under the water who fell in love with it from the first fish they saw. Two of them that I personally took on a DSD eventually became instructors.

If it's really not to her taste you have to work out some compromise - you get a diving holiday, she gets a holiday doing her stuff, and you both take a holiday together doing together stuff. It's something you seriously need to talk about and agree on, because diving is not the only word that begins with D-I-V...(orce).

If she's happy chilling for a couple of hours on a boat while you dive, great, but I do know couples where a passion for the underwater world in one but not the other has led to marital problems. Not in all couples, obviously, but I've seen it happen (and I have somewhat personal experience in the matter, although marriage was never involved) and it can become a serious problem - as can any leisure activity enjoyed by one and not the other.

Good luck to the both of you,

C.

 

[fnfalman]

Just becareful with wanting your honey to learn SCUBA when she doesn't want to. If you keep on insisting, she might do it in exchange for your participation in one of her activities that you may not care for like going antiqueing or go to bridal parties.

 

[ohmdiver]

Find a shop that offers a pool experiance, and then ask her to try, (My LDS does a free one every 6 weeks or so in the shallow end only) if she says no, you may gentle ask why. My wife was concerned with clostraphobia (sp, sorry chip) it was a non issue when she got to the pool.

If she has diffrent issues, that can be dealt with, work on them one at time. If her issues can not be worked out, you will have a great Shore support person. Our club has found that most S.O. enjoy the get togethers as much as the divers...

Don't push, and understand....
Best of luck..

 

[Hank49]

any help would be greatly appreciated!

thanks
Adi

Go on a vacation to a dive resort area, find the shop with the hottest looking female instructor you can, and take your wife there and tell her you're going to sign up for a course with said, super hot instructor.

 

[JeffG]

Just talk about it (diving). If you are truly enthusiastic...it will come out and you might get her curious. Worked for me.


Heck...I even got her into cold water low vis lake diving.

 

[lmorin]

Take her to an exotic beach location that has fantastic snorkeling. Snorkel with her and enjoy it together under ideal conditions. She'll probably come around to the diving after a while.

 

[Van Isle]

I was the uncertified "other." I was around diving so much that other divers who didn't know me thought I was a DM because of my command of the slang, hanging around my spouse/instructor and her friends, all instructors.

I was never pressured and when the time was right I got certified. I'm stubborn enough that if I was pressured in to it I would have resented and resisted for ever. And we would not have woken up early this morning for a sunrise dive before work! ;-)

You don't want your spouse to "consent" to anything. Or to "agree" or "compromise" on any aspect of the diving. Imagine if her hobby was scrap booking. Would you appreciate it if she showed up with a "gift" for you of expensive scissors, a selection of neat fabric swaths and cardboard, glue, and glitter? You want her to want it. You don't want her to do it to please you.

If she doesn't want to dive you are risking money, relationships, and safety, even if she "consents" or acquiesces to your request.

Good luck, congrats on the engagement.

VI