OceanicFan
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I agree that good buddy skills are not usually taught in OW. That really should be done. I also agree that self reliance is very important. I do think DAN did not really cover all the bases on this incident.
I have had buddies just take off on me. One time I was chasing, and chasing, and because I was low on air, I had to give up the chase and surface. Another time, even after I specifically discussed staying together on the dive, the buddy took off. I kept up with her and basically did not enjoy my dive. But I didn't dive with her again.
I dive because I enjoy it. If a buddy is going to impede my enjoyment, I will not dive with them again. But I will attempt to be a good buddy to them for that one dive.
As for diving shoulder to shoulder, I find that a bit difficult unless you are doing a square profile and you know where the boundries are. I always discuss where the placement is and try to stay there. If I am the leader, then I make the turns, etc. and my buddy is right where I expect them to be; close by but not at my shoulder. Usually, just about a foot behind on whatever side we agree on.
Shoulder to shoulder, in my experience, has just not been that practical. I usually dive with the same person on a regular basis. I will often turn down dives that he cannot make it to. He and I work very well together and it's just understood that he leads and I follow. We never have to ask questions or wonder where the other person is. Shoulder to shoulder means we have to swim farther apart which can lead to separation.
Every now and then, if he doesn't notice me or hasn't felt me brush up against his fins, he will check to make sure I am still there. I have a tank banger *dodge sticks and stones* and if I need him, and he's out of reach, one click and he turns around to see whatsup.
I never get ahead of him, he never has to wonder where I am or how far away I might be. In my experience, limited as it may be, when I have done shoulder to shoulder, especially with newer or untrained divers, I'm constantly looking to see where they are, and my mask has no side panels, so it's a noted effort to look and find them.
If I just let them lead, I can easily keep track of them, and I will make an effort to bump their fins from time to time to let them know I am still there.
I would never let someone new lead me around in open water like the ocean, where poor navigational skills could find us lost at sea, and in that case I always like to lead or I will suffer through shoulder to shoulder if I have to. But I much prefer to have my buddy in plain sight and within reach should I need them or visa versa.
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EDIT: I can totally understand, after reading my own post, how the same things I said could be said in reverse as positive arguments for shoulder to shoulder. I guess it's just a matter of personal preference. Guess I spoke too soon. =/
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