OK let me lay all the cards out on the table. Our "Try Scuba" class went great for me, and was a total disaster for my wife. She is done with scuba. Like DONE.
Yes, I am overthinking things but this started with a dream for a fabulous tropical vacation and both of us getting certified and it's not that anymore. I'm hoping to make the most of what I have at this point in spite of the disappointment. And no, she was not the typical "reluctant spouse" going along for the ride to placate me. She was fully engaged and asking questions and very, very eager. We were on our knees on the platform of the pool (of course, right?) and doing mask skills and I cleared a partial flood, and she did as well. Then I cleared the full flood, and she did as well. It was all cake. Then I took my mask off and put it back on and cleared it. She took her mask off, put it back on, and then- I don't know- breathed in through her nose? And bolted to the surface. Three times in a row. And looking back- and talking to other people about the incident- makes me wonder why our instructor just did the exact same thing over and over.
I don't know how all of this ends but maybe it's me diving wrecks in a dry suit in Lake Huron, or maybe it's (eventually??) both of us diving in tropical locations or doing liveaboards. I'm not giving up hope for her but at the same time I am not pushing at all.
I've planned on doing an extreme scuba makeover (UTD) when I return to tighten things up. My instructor in Mexico insists that I will have good trim and buoyancy when we are finished, so we will see. At any rate, I don't think the extreme scuba makeover could be a bad idea. But I'm not expert on scuba education as has been clearly established.