- Did something happen during a dive that makes you feel this way?
Maybe. There was an incident in Sipidan where half the group jumped and went down, didn't wait for us. The other 4 of us tried to go under and find them, but they were gone. All I saw was blue. Nothing else. And one glance at my reg saying "80 feet" scared the crap out of me, I had NO idea I go sink so fast.
Ok, what I'm reading through this is that you have a skills issue (buoyancy) that you're unsure about (if it's realistically good enough is irrelevant) and that you've had a real diving experience that makes you unsure of whether you're in a position to handle yourself on deep walls or not.
Well, davezwife, (I hope you have your own name too) ....
I don't find it the least bit surprising that you feel freaked out on walls.....!
Diving is all about 3 things:
1) comfort (and comfort zones)
2) safety
3) technique
On the wall in Sipidan you were diving well outside your comfort zone and that in itself is reason enough to cause you to be nervous.
It's not surprising, given this experience, that it could cause you to be unsure of yourself. There's nothing wrong with that and I think talking about it is the right approach. You're right on track.
I would suggest two things to you. (1) that you can do something about the skills you have doubts about and (2) not all walls as are *tough* as the wall in Sipidan.
- If it freaks you out, why do you want to MAKE wall dives...? I don't want to be that one in the group that says "sorry, skerd of that spot, let's go somewhere else." I guess. I don't want to miss the great dives, and hate having this fear.
Ok...... On the issue of peer pressure... This is mostly between your ears. I'll tell you something. I have nearly 1300 dives and last week I stepped out of the water at the entry on a dive I've made 100 times before and called the dive.... AND in front of 4 open-water students!! I was having multiple equipment problems related to a leaking drysuit and I just said "I'm sorry guys, there are too many things happening right now that I'm not happy with" and the dive was over. I've called MANY dives because I "wan't happy" and in front of my OW students I wasn't afraid.... it was just strong modelling of an adequate behaviour.
One of the things we all have to get used to as divers is that we have boundaries. I've sat out many a dive before because it didn't fall within my "comfort zone" and even with the experience I have now, there are just some things I won't do. In Egypt some of the dive guides regularly dive to 100 metres on air for the *kick*.... when invited I say "sorry 60 is my personal limit".....
Does that make me "skerd"? no. It makes me a confident diver. I understand that you don't want to have this fear but accpeting it makes you a much stronger diver than someone with the same fear who denys it. !!! really!
- What, if anything, do you feel would help you gain the confidence and comfort you need to make these dives?
I *do* need to learn my boyancy more. The 1st half of a dive I'm just getting my nerves in check and then by the time THAT happens, my tank is lighter and I'm fighting to stay down. The last time I dove I had not lost the extra baby weight, so that added to the shame of floating, lol.
This upcoming trip we dive Coz 1st, and I did ok there in August. So I'm going to load up on weight, and let the DM help me with boyancy.
Any other thoughts?????
Ok, this is purely a technique issue. The good news is that you can train this. It takes some time, some attention, and maybe 50-60 dives but you WILL learn it. Just slow down and relax and build up your experience at the pace that feels comfortable to you.....
as for "loading up" with weight. I can certainly understand this way of thinking but taking the "right amount" of weight is probably better. When you go to Cozumel there is a small cove a bit north/west of the city where you can make a check dive from shore before you start diving from teh boat. Go with a DM and do a proper buoyancy check and just dive and have fun.
As far as I recall there aren't any deep walls near Cozumel. I recall making a lot of deep (+/- 100ft) drift dives but there was a hard bottom at that depth....
The main message in all this is to not be too heavy on yourself..... Diving is something you learn one dive at a time and comfort is something that's only built up with experience.... not expectations.
R..