Welcome girbey!
For lodging, it depends on what you want and your budget. As Scuba65 said, the Plaza is nice, as is Buddies and others like Sandollar and Capt Don's. They are among the larger resorts with packages all inclusive. You can check and see what each offers including $$. There are also smaller resorts such as Eden Beach and Golden Reef that can also create a total package stay for you. They are somewhat more private and not as crowded if that is what you are more interested in. Consider as well how easy are you to please? Bargain hotels like the WannaDive Hut have low rates and minimal room accommidations but can save you big $'s. There are also numerous rental properties and bed and breakfast places. Go to
www.infobonaire.com and look around. Again, it's all about what you want.
For airfare, Air Jamaica has been having issues so beware. Depending on where you can fly out from, AA flies through San Juan but the layover is quite long with a connection on American Eagle. Another option is Continental to Aruba and a connection on Bonaire Express. The thing I like about the Aruba route is you can clear US customs there on your way back. You may also find flights through Curacao. Just be sure whatever route you take allows for ample time for customs and imigration between flights.
I have stayed at Eden Beach and WannaDive Hut and will be staying with Golden Reef in October. So far all have been a good experience, but keep in mind I'm easy to please. Give me a full tank and I'm happy

For food, do you want to eat in or out? There are stores on island where you can buy food and eat in, and there are many restaurants like Casablancas, Richard's, Rib Factory, Gibi Gibi's, and others I can't spell so good that have great food. I like the Lost Penguin as well.
Hope this helps, and I could give you a better answer if you were more specific on your preferences.
Jet