Why is it that if you're conjested in your nose that if you do a valsalva it clears the passage for a few seconds?
Do you mean clears the passage in the nose or the ear? The lining of the Eustachian tube is mucosa, the "skin" of the upper airway. Mucosa lines the mouth, the nose, the Eustachian tube and the middle ear. When you have a cold, and are feeling congested, that is swelling in the mucosa that is a part of your body's response to an infection. The swelling isn't limited to the mucosa in the nose, but the Eustachian tube mucosa swells as well. Therefore, with pressure you can force air up the poorly functioning, congested tube, overcoming the swelling of the mucosa.
If you mean the nose, congestion there can also be temporarily relieved by overpressurizing the area, pushing the walls of the nasal cavity apart. It tends to come back pretty quickly, though...
I've only had a reverse block once and it was painful. I just descended a few feet, pinched my nose and sucked in. Once it popped I equalized with no effort for the rest of the ascent.
Yup... can be painful, and since you are ending the dive, and may be low on air, you might not have the luxury of spending a lot of time making a slow ascent, descending a few times, etc...
I had a similar problem with a sinus reverse squeeze... it really never cleared on ascent, and I had to surface with a face full of pressurized air- VERY painful. While this isn't great, it is not as dangerous as a pressure injury to the ear (doctors make terrible patients...). I worked it slowly on the boat, alternating Valsalva and Toynbee maneuvers, until the sinus opened suddenly (with a big rush of bloody mucus!).
There are no words to describe how good that felt...!