art.chick
Contributor
Wow! You really show your wife how important it is to dive with her! This is one issue that my husband & I DID actually solve: the equipment carrying problem. We used to have one big bag. He thought it would be easier to have just 1 to carry. However, with 2 peoples' gear, it was HEAVY! I could pull it but not carry it, so if it needed to be lifted, he had to do it. I got so mad at all the single girls who ribbed me about trapping a man so I didn;t have to carry gear any more!!!!
When our bag was stolen, I took charge: I bought 2 smaller bags, each easily liftable by me. I bought one of those tank straps so I can carry my air like a piece of luggage. Now I can carry my share & those girls shut up!
As for packing/washing, we used to have a system: he would pack (since I worked late Fri night) & I washed gear (I did not have to go to sleep as early Sunday night.) The weak link: he tends to pack what seems inportant to him & forgets my special gear (ankle weights, lycra skin "underwear", papaya tablets, mask de-fogger). So now we each pack our own. It causes less resentment. And now I only wash my own gear since I am no longer opening a 2-person bag. Sadly, his gear will swelter in the trunk for days (can;t be good for the car, either.) NOT MY PROBLEM!
I feel that we are both equally motivated to dive, and for couples who have different enthusiasm levels, equal participation may be too much to expect, but we gals can carry our own weight when the man does not proportion all the luggage for super-macho strength. As for attitudes, I have gotten some good insights from this board. His anxiety level when diving with me just triggers my panic, & then we are a divemasters' nightmare. I hope that someday this eases up & we can have fun as buddies, but for now, my answer is to dive with other girls & let him dive with guys. My buddy & I ask the compass for directions & see pretty fish; the boys whiz off to a sand bed & act like they are immune to hypothermia. Just like on the road.ut:
When our bag was stolen, I took charge: I bought 2 smaller bags, each easily liftable by me. I bought one of those tank straps so I can carry my air like a piece of luggage. Now I can carry my share & those girls shut up!
As for packing/washing, we used to have a system: he would pack (since I worked late Fri night) & I washed gear (I did not have to go to sleep as early Sunday night.) The weak link: he tends to pack what seems inportant to him & forgets my special gear (ankle weights, lycra skin "underwear", papaya tablets, mask de-fogger). So now we each pack our own. It causes less resentment. And now I only wash my own gear since I am no longer opening a 2-person bag. Sadly, his gear will swelter in the trunk for days (can;t be good for the car, either.) NOT MY PROBLEM!
I feel that we are both equally motivated to dive, and for couples who have different enthusiasm levels, equal participation may be too much to expect, but we gals can carry our own weight when the man does not proportion all the luggage for super-macho strength. As for attitudes, I have gotten some good insights from this board. His anxiety level when diving with me just triggers my panic, & then we are a divemasters' nightmare. I hope that someday this eases up & we can have fun as buddies, but for now, my answer is to dive with other girls & let him dive with guys. My buddy & I ask the compass for directions & see pretty fish; the boys whiz off to a sand bed & act like they are immune to hypothermia. Just like on the road.ut: