Hi Iamacchia,
I'm afraid you stumbled into the usual 'BP/W is best-discussion'. Every time someone has a question about a non-BP/W piece of equipment, something like this happens. They may be right (I have no idea, I never used a BP/W), but that's not the point. You are asking about specific BCD's and I'll try to give some help.
About 18 months ago, I was at a similar point where you are now: what to buy? I was looking at both jackets and wingstyle BCD's and BP/W's. For my own reasons, I chose the Axiom. It's sort of a hybrid, as (I have been told) the first air into your BCD will mostly be kept in the wing section by means of rubber bands. I cannot tell you anything else about the other wings and 'hybrids' as I have not tried them. I have used quite a few different jacket-style BCD's and most were OK but nothing more. Poor fit, bit constrictive. I am very happy about my Axiom. It's a great fit and not bulky, integrated weights work like a charm, tank band system is fantastic (as long as you use tanks with the same size) so I am happy with it and would recommend it. I think I have done about 20 dives with it.
My advice: if possible, try different models out in the water as what's best for me may not be best for you. For instance, I also tried the Hydros Pro and to me it was a horrible fit (I would never dive with it), although I know others who are very happy with it. As to jacket/wing/BPW, just choose what you want, for whatever reason.
I visit this part of the forum very rarely as I notice this constant BP/W-pushing annoys me. I am fully convinced that the pushers never drink, smoke, eat sparingly and healthily, avoid stress, exercise daily and have a perfect BMI. I'll quit my rant now and wish you best of luck.