I'm really depressed right now. Perhaps I'm worrying for nothing.
Probably.
DAY 1 / DIVE 1.....No ear issues. Equalization no problem. Avergae depth 55 feet
DAY 1 / DIVE 2....Some difficulty equalizing. Some pressure. Some discomfort. I perform up and down method to get equalization balanced. Eventually, all is good. Dive completed. Average depth 50 feet.
POST DIVE.....Terrible congestion, clogging, and headaches for 24 hours
The first dive was good. Great!
The more you dive the worse it gets. Air travelling back and forth in the eustachian tubes irritates them and causes swelling and blocking of air flow and then some pain. This could be caused by your less than perfect buoyancy control and too swift (and frequent!) changes in depth and also by less than optimal equalization. All of this improves with experience. Please do 30 more dives to discover that the problem migh be gone.
I am not a medical doctor, but I do know from experience that swift changes in pressure back and forth WILL cause pain, so that is normal (and unwanted). The more you bounce, the more it will hurt.
Once you hit 55 feet, it is much easier to go deeper. Shallow depths are hardest as the
relative pressure change is greatest near the surface.
Do you need to do three to four dives per day for five consecutive days once a year (20 dives a year)?
Or could you do one dive per week instead (54 dives a year)?
Unless you must do binge diving, there are other options!
Liveaboards are not the only way of diving!
AM I DOOMED TO LIVE MY DIVING LIFE AT 35 FEET???
No, you are not.
Time will tell
how frequently you can dive to great depth, but the odds are in your favor.
Consulting a medical doctor specializing in hyperbaric (=diving) medicine is always a good option if this problem persists, but let's face it: Your first dive was good. Successive dives were worse. This very much looks like a skills problem and not a medical problem. If it were you head that was broken then the first dive already would have been a problem. But you only describe REPETITION to be the problem. That's a clue.