This is a storm in a tea cup. I'm sure you loved the dives. The "advanced" course, includes one dive to 30 meters and some exercises to demonstrate decreased cognitive ability. You have essentially done that sans the exercises. In fact you are now more qualified to go to 30 meters than someone with an AOW ticket, as you have had several, not just 1, under direct supervision of an instructor. The most dangerous part of the dive is the 1st 10 meters anyway (greatest gas volume changes). Out of gas a 10 meters and a bolt to the surface with a closed glottis will kill you as quickly as the same event from 30 meters. Had I been on the boat and the DM had forbidden me to go below 18 meters I would have been deeply dissappointed. He obviously accompanied you on the dives to assess your ability and safety, and must have thought you were OK. This board is over represented with Technical divers, and as a result are out of touch with recreational diving. At no time during the dive will you go into real or virtual overhead environemt ie into deco. It's not hard to surface with 50 bar, and if that is your goal it is easily achieved without extensive gas management planning. The standard is to signal the DM when you are at 100 bar and then start ending the dive. Personally, I feel that these arbitrary numbers like 18 meters, are just that, arbitrary. 30 meters in 50 meter viz is much better than 18 meters in pea soup.
Kudos to your liveaboard instructor for allowing you to enjoy the trip to the full, and for not being a slave to arbitrary rules and regulations. We need more DM's like that. Unfortunately we are are own worst enemies, and it is the threat of loosing a rediculous legal battle that makes most people throw commonsense out the window and become slaves to the written regulations. As for the guy back home... find another instructor! Most definitely not irresponsible.